So, lately in vitro has been coming up in the media more often. It’s something that celebrities, neighbors, friends, and family members are facing. Usually it’s something that people don’t speak of. Today it’s a topic that many people are struggling with. Partly since people are waiting longer before starting a family.
I have been there on both sides, in secret and open wiling to discuss with anyone. At first I was ashamed that we couldn’t do what every man and woman could do. I was disappointed with myself. With the second IVF cycle I decided to start this blog. I overcame the silence and thought what the heck this will be my way of venting and show what it’s like to have science help conceive. Because of my blog I have helped others, seen women struggling with infertility become mothers and made friends.
Just about everyone on this planet has heard of Kim K. and Kanye West. And some have heard of John Legend and Chrissy T. Both couples used IVF to conceive. They even went a step further and chose the gender of their off spring. Almost like having a baby wasn’t a blessing enough they “custom picked” what they are having. They have their reasons. Kim wanted just 2 kids. Chrissy thought John would be a great dad to a girl. She also said they will have a boy. A future order?
Before my IVF cycles I was asked by family if I would be able to chose the sex. I wasn’t. And it wasn’t something I wanted to do. My belief is that I’m already screwing with nature, I wanted to leave the rest alone. I loved the element of surprise when I found out the genders with our family with us.
Now that I have beautiful twin girls would I want to chose the gender of the next baby? No. My family would be perfect if it is a boy or another girl. It’s still perfect if I don’t have another. I am curious of what we have waiting in the cyro bank. I know I will not be able to be a mom to all 7 frozen embryos. One day a few years from now the decision on what to do with them will need to be made.